The Youth of Today On Waiting Girls Edition

When I went to write this blog I was actually sad. Because no matter how hard I tried I couldn’t think of a Christian guy I knew that was waiting or even a virgin. But as I thought about it longer I realized I knew guys who were virgins, they just weren’t Christian and if there are non Christian guys waiting there has to be Christian guys out there waiting, so thus began my search But as I went on my search I realized I didn’t care if they were waiting or Christian I just wanted to hear people’s stories. So in these surveys are a plethora of people from all over the place with different stories and views.

I apologize for the unequal amount of guys versus girls. But I am one of those girls that believes that girls can be friends with guys, so it just happened that way.

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GIRLS 

#1

How would you define waiting?
For me, waiting is remaining celibate until you have found the person who you love and loves you just as much. Developing a relationship with them beyond physical desire and on an emotional, spiritual level. When you've established that, then I think it's appropriate to share yourself physically.
Have you chosen to wait?
I have not waited in the traditional sense of the term, but on my own terms, yes I did wait.
Why have you chosen to not wait? or Why have you chosen to wait?
I have chosen not to wait because I believe that sharing myself with another person in a physical manner is my own personal decision. While I do believe that God has saved someone special for me somewhere in the world, I don't think there's any harm in engaging in sexual activity as long as I make sure to protect myself, physically and emotionally.
Do you regret your decision thus far?
I don't regret my decision thus far. Although we have broken up, the only guy I have had sex with was my boyfriend of two years and my best friend of three. I share everything with him; therefore it only seemed natural to share that experience with him as well.
What do you think of people that wait?
I think people who wait are extremely honorable and I respect them for their decision. I don't think it would be something I'd be able to do.
Would you want your children to wait?
I would want my children to wait until they have found someone who loves them more than anything.
Would you want to marry someone who has waited or who has not waited?
I would want to marry someone who has not waited just so that we are on the same page in a physical manner.
How would you describe your future husband or wife?
My future partner will be just as loving as I am; which is to say unconditionally, without reason or doubt. They will be kind and respect me, my values, and everything/everyone I hold close to me.
Why do you think people wait?
People wait for many reasons. Whether it be for religious reasons, or for personal ones, I think the main reason people wait is so they don't get hurt in the end.
Do you think waiting is accepted?
Waiting is definitely not accepted in today's society. It is extremely disappointing how this is something that is actually frowned upon; one's beliefs should never be criticized in such a manner.
Do you know anyone whose waiting or has waited?
I do know one person who is waiting. She seems extremely set in her ways, and I am proud of her for choosing such a path for herself. 

#2

How would you define waiting? Well I think of it as abstaining from any sexual contact until marriage
Have you chosen to wait? Yes
Why have you chosen to not wait? or Why have you chosen to wait? I have because God designed sex for marriage, to spiritually and emotionally unify a couple. If I were to have sex with every person I had feelings for, that would be a piece of me gone with them, and then when the time has come for my husband, there'll be nothing left for him, and he deserves ALL of me. Plus, sex prematurely makes things so much more complicated and can make you blind to the truth
Do you regret your decision thus far? not at all

What do you think of people that wait? I think people that wait have a lot of willpower and are to be applauded, especially nowadays where sex is everywhere and the mentality is to get as much of it as possible

Do you think waiting would strengthen someones relationship with God as well as their partner? YESSSSS. Honestly the only people that I know that have successfully waited until marriage had a very strong relationship with God. It takes one in order to put pleasing and honoring God ahead of pleasing yourself and your own desires. and doing that alone will strengthen the relationship with their partner because 1. God will be pleased with it and bless it and 2. it's alot easier to get to know your partner when you aren't ripping each other's clothes off half the time.

Would you want your children to wait? Most definitely.lol

Would you want to marry someone who has waited or who has not waited? that has waited. If I waited for them, I want them to wait for me.

How would you describe your future husband or wife? God fearing, a leader, a family man, selfless and a good listener. A provider

Why do you think people wait? Because now a days you don't know who you're messing with and who you're getting into relationships with, and you don't wanna invest all that into people who might not be there to stay.

Do you think waiting is accepted? I think it's accepted in the sense that it's not like bashed. But i still get a few side looks when I tell people I'm celibate.

Do you know anyone whose waiting or has waited? I know quite a few people that are waiting and that have waited

Any further thoughts on waiting? I just think it should be further pushed, not as a last resort kinda thing, but instead of just saying "Don't Have Sex" and wagging a finger, the honest truth about it, the benefits, what the bible says about it should be told to get people to understand WHY we should wait.

"Waiting".


#3


 Hmm. Waiting for me means that I recognize that there is one man for me, the man God created for me and I am the woman He created for him. Because of this, I do not need to entertain other men as if they are the one when they are not. That doesn't just mean no sex. It means no romantic relationship. It means no flings. It means no dips, boos, shorty doo wops and the like. It also means nothing that can LEAD to a romantic relationship or sex or fling etc as well (i.e. dating, PDA, flirting, kissing, holding, cuddling, extended time spent together alone, etc.). I will WAIT for my future husband to leave his home and cleave to me (Gen. 2:24). That is all contingent on whether God ordains for me to be married, as the gift of singleness is often treasured more in God's eyes than marriage (1 Cor. 7).

I have chosen to wait not just because there is one man for me (possibly), but because anything you do that is not God's desire will cease, and with some pain, especially soul ties. I experienced this myself not too long ago, and the pain was so deep, it affected every part of me, most of all, my connection to Christ. We were estranged, and I realized I didn't know Him like I thought I did mainly because I was tied up into some boy that I THOUGHT was my husband, but I knew I NEVER heard that from the Lord (instead, I just went along with what he thought God said to him). Your husband should make you cling to Christ, not pull you away. So that is why I've chosen to wait. I don't want to be in a situation that pulls me away from Christ.

I do not regret it thus far. I truly cracked down on waiting not too long ago actually, and it's so refreshing. The soul ties are gone, I feel free, and I don't feel the pressure to be someone I'm not. I'm living more purely than I've ever lived. And Christ is finally at the center of my heart. Can't get better than that.

Waiting is something you can only do with God leading the way. It strengthens your relationship to Him tremendously. Because we all desire to be loved. We were created that way. We want to feel special. And when you decide to not receive that from a random person, but from God, He makes you TRULY whole. Same thing goes for your future spouse. So when you DO meet, you don't cling to each other because you need him/her or he/she needs you. You cling to each other to demonstrate God's love and grace for mankind through you loving each other.

Of COURSE, I want my kids to wait!! Do you know how many lows I would've avoided had I waited earlier? TONS!!! And I firmly believe that until a child leaves home, he/she will come to fully know him/herself. So how are you gonna tell me you know that you're ready to be in a relationship? You barely know yourself!

Since I've made the decision to wait, I'd like for my future hubby to do the same because then we can both see how serious we are about being the best we can be for our spouses as well as how dedicated we are to Christ. Now, since I made this decision at age 19, I can definitely understand if he's made it later on in life, or that he has baggage with him as he meets me, because I have plenty of baggage myself. I have failed relationships, soul ties, impurities, and sexual immorality on my record that cannot be ignored. It is my testimony. And it might be his. And with God working through us, we will overcome those bounds together. But if he's serious about marrying me, he must wait. I have those standards now and I WILL NOT WAVER ON THEM.

My future hubby has a LOT to live up to, but I believe he can accomplish it by setting Christ as his center. My husband must be pursuing Christ with his whole heart. He must recognize what marriage is as defined by God and the type of man he should be as demonstrated through Christ. He must know that he has to pursue ME and I not pursue HIM. He must fight for my heart when I reject him (and I will. Multiple times. Because he has to show himself approved). He should know that as the bridegroom, His love represents Christ's love for the church, the bride (i.e. ME!). Meaning He should be prepared to lay His life down for his wife. Meaning He should be a sanctifier and savior for his wife. Meaning He should be a leader. Meaning He must love and respect his wife. Meaning that if she sins against him, He must forgive her and give her grace because all of these things are what Jesus did for us and this is who He is. (Eph. 5:23)

People wait for many reasons. Most are like my reason. Others are because some people are afraid of a relationship, or are too particular or picky, or other carnal reasons. But the "phenomenon" that is waiting is almost always based on reasons that pertain to someone's connection to God or their religion (if not Christianity).

Waiting is BY NO MEANS ACCEPTED in our world. It is saturated in our culture to serial date with no purpose or with no trust in God. From social dating sites to pressure from family to television shows and rom-com movies, dating is the thing to do, so when you decide not to date, people think you're a cynic or you're depressed or you don't believe in love. And SEX?!?!?! I don't even have to go there. Just the mere fact that the word "sexy" is so ingrained in our culture that it can be equated to "beautiful" is beyond me. Beauty=sexual attraction. Disrespectful.

I know a good amount of people who are intentionally waiting. But not many honestly. I would like to know more. Both men and women. But especially men. Women would like to know and be assured of the fact that their future husband is possibly waiting to meet her and be captivated by her spirit alone.

What I'd like to leave you with is this: don't just wait and not do anything about it. Use this time to fall madly in love with Christ. Above all things, He will ALWAYS be our groom. He deserves our heart much more than an earthly husband or wife. Serve Him crazily. Make this period of singleness worth it. It IS A GIFT. It is cherished by God. DON'T LET THE WORLD TELL YOU OTHERWISE. And for those who feel like they will never marry, REJOICE!!! God wants you fully focused on Him then, and possibly, His plans for you are so big that a married man or woman cannot accomplish them because they must be a quality spouse. That's a blessing that not many people receive. It is a precious jewel. Bask in its beauty with awe, and take extreme care of it.

I love you all, and I pray that God is glorified with my responses and testimony. I pray that the Holy Spirit draws you nearer to Him, and that you pursue Christ with your whole heart before pursuing your bride or being pursued by your husband. God bless!

Sarah Again....

I feel like a lot of these stories speak for themselves, so I’m not trying to write a book here…but after reading these you have got to see that there are people waiting or wished they would have waited if not for marriage at least for love. Soul ties are real people. You don’t want one with the wrong person. I don’t know maybe you do but I know I DON’T.

Sex is something sacred sure, but so is everything else that goes along with it. The love, the smiles, the laughs, the whispers, the holding of hands. A friend once told me while she was tearing up, “Sarah people don’t even see the beauty of holding hands anymore.” Ever since then that’s all I notice. The way someone is connected to your pulse, and that way you are trusting someone to hold your identity (i.e. your fingerprints) I KNOW RIGHT…sorry I’m a weirdo. But yea the bible says in Proverbs 4:23 “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.” That means that both guys and girls should be protecting their hearts and also if we are truly trying to be like Christ the hearts of the one we are courting/dating out of respect and love.

There is beauty in the little things. I challenge you to search for them; you won’t have to look hard. God is so perfect and amazing that he thought out every single detail and created every beautiful thing. That’s right, that means holding hands…he created that. So give Him thanks and just trust that he has the perfect amazing ending for you if you are willing to trust Him completely.